Smart Latinas Listen to Wise Women

I was a year old when Oprah started her show. In the 25 years since, I never watched a single episode in its entirety - until the last one.

Of the 4,561 episodes, the final episode was the only one that caught my attention: Oprah spoke, from the heart, about herself and the lessons she's learned over the years.

When Wise Women go over their lessons learned, I pay serious attention - I even take notes. There are a lot of people out there who decide that, if they had to go through hell and high water to get to where they are, then by golly, so should you. But that's just telling people to reinvent the wheel - there's no progress!

I borrowed this image from mayhem-chaos.net - they have absolutely nothing to do with me, and I have nothing to do with them, except I liked their picture and am giving them credit for it.Progress (in my mind), comes when someone says: Hi, I climbed this ladder as far as it would go. Now I'm tired, but I've managed to build a platform here at the top. Do me a favor and take the elevator to my platform (remember to bring your ladder, too!), and climb your ladder as far as it goes. All I ask is that you build a platform when you reach the top, and pass along the same instructions I just gave to you.

So, thank you, Oprah, for sharing your platform with me. I have taken your lessons to heart, even though I never watched your show. For the rest of you, I'm holding the elevator door open so that we can all start on Oprah's platform together (you'll have to bring your own ladder, of course):

Lessons I've Learned from Oprah's Lessons Learned:

  1. Everyone has a purpose. Spend your time finding yours, and then live it out.
  2. You are responsible for your own life. Stuff that you can't control happens to you, good and bad, but it is your choice to pass along the associated energy or not.
  3. Everyone - EVERYONE - wants and needs to feel validated. Accepting and acknowledging that this desire is innate to every person you come in contact with will only help you.
  4. The world is bigger than you. You are not alone, for better or worse.
  5. You don't get to where you want to be without a dream, a team, and a plan.

The lesson that meant the most to me was #3 - people want to be seen, heard, and feel like they matter. I know this, you know this, but too often, we don't think about it. I hereby vow to do a better job, especially against the people I don't particularly care for, because they are simply acting with the same validation anxiety as I am.

What about you? What have you taken from Oprah's 25 years on television? What lessons have you learned from other Wise Women? Where is your ladder going?